“Wellness isn’t about deprivation and it’s not about perfection. It is about pointing yourself in the direction of growth, training yourself to get comfortable with your highest potential and then taking small steps to support that shift. It is about showing up for yourself day by day and then one day finding that you have undergone a transformation. “Kathy Freston”
What approach will serve you best to allow your movement into a better, fuller place, whether it be leaving school, finding employment for the first time, managing the empty nest, or settling into a well-earned retirement?
Over the years, I have explored and applied a variety of different approaches and particularly make use of the following modalities:
Coaching is a process of accurate and thought-provoking questioning by the coach which prompts the client to find their own answers and to work themselves through to a state of transition. This process requires a real intention and commitment by the coachee to transition into a place of more meaningful being; to discover (and grow into) their best version of themselves. The coach holds the process, utilising insight and experience to ensure that an optimal path is navigated. It’s the co-working between coach and coachee; a joint desire to move towards the coachee’s goals. It is about engaging, integrating and then emerging into a desired new way of being.
Counselling takes place when the counsellor and client focus on and seek to resolve matters arising which may have resulted in a variety of emotions causing some anxiety or blockage. From a life stage perspective, clients may feel that they are struggling to manage e.g. a bad work experience, disillusionment in their abilities, regretting a life not fulfilled or possibly feeling anxious about what is yet to come. The counsellor creates a safe space for clients to relay their concerns and assist them in unearthing these core challenges. A good counsellor also offers suggestions, based on their knowledge of their client and their professional understanding of psychological principles.
Guidance on the other hand is more directive. I use this modality to offer advice or counsel or to recommend. This approach is particularly useful and certainly more appropriate when navigating the myriad of career choices, post school, especially as I have many years of experience in this area. E.g. what subjects are required for acceptance to various degrees, courses that might suit you best, where you could find more information about a special interest etc.
Facilitating is about guiding a group discussion, ensuring the full inclusivity of the group, where all have the right to contribute and are engaged in the process. It is a time of active listening, providing clear instructions, managing time and ensuring the comfort of the team. It also includes making sure that the learnings are effective and relevant and steering the conversations in need. I use facilitation in my career and empty nest workshops.
Ultimately, regardless of the approach or modality that we use, my interaction with you is based on mutual trust;
It’s about using this space as both a rock and that soft space to fall into;
It’s about engaging fully in the available time to be heard and understood so that you can raise the bar and live into a desired new way of being;
and / or it’s about figuring out some stumbling blocks on the way, and finding the encouragement and support to live up to your optimal sense of self!