While on Sabbatical resources!


Dear clients, 
I will be on sabbatical from 27th April until the second week of July 2022. 

I wanted to provide some information for those who are exploring after school courses, career changes /development, getting out of one’s career completely, or for those who have just dropped by and into my site! 

Hence, I have put together some useful resources below: 

School learner subject choice / career counselling and decision making: 
I can highly recommend my colleague, Michelle Duraan with all manner of school related counselling and assessments.  Her focus is particularly on this age-group and she is thorough and knowledgeable.  She runs a thriving practice in Durbanville and would be happy to see any of my clients. 

Unravelling career needs: 
Should you find that you are experiencing some sort of career impasse and feel stuck without recourse to know what to do, I can certainly recommend Richard Bolles’ book:  What Colour is your Parachute.  There are now several editions available, the most recent which can be found at book shops or online.  However, many of the older editions can be found in second hand-book shops and provide similar information and certainly sufficient knowledge to get you started and well on your way. 

Libraries too, often have the book in their resources section. 

Bolles posits that it is most important to get a clearer idea of self and to be quite specific about what you want before you go about searching for the job.  He asks how anyone can look for work, when they don’t know what you are looking for?! At times, we tend to try and squeeze ourselves into the roles that are advertised without considering how this job / career will really suit us.  He teaches us to be confident of our skills and what we can bring to the organisation, rather than job beggars.

His book provides some outstanding exercises.  He uses John Holland’s research on the big 6 career themes, to help hone-in on type of broad industry as a start. His ‘one piece of paper’ exercise then focusses on what it is exactly that we would like in our best suited career, e.g. use of favourite skills, best working environment, level in the organisation and salary etc. 

Book or no book, it is also most useful to spend some time reflecting on what has worked for you previously in jobs / careers and what no longer supports your vision or goals, life situation or environment. You may want to ask yourself how things are serving you, what you are tolerating, how your career expectations are living up to your career achievements. You may want to set more goals, or change direction completely.  What concerns you, how can I upskill and what are skills required in the 21st century hybrid work space?  What concerns you, what uplifts you, what would provide you with meaning and purpose?  What are your values? 

Make a big friend of google!  Sometimes research can be overwhelming, but hold the space, writing down your learnings as you go along! 

Ideally conduct informational interviews (have a whole list of questions about a career that may pique your interest and then request and schedule a time to speak to someone in that role) 

It is also most useful to get to the coal-face where you can experience the real nitty-gritty of the type of work that you may be interested in.  You will get to know the reality of the ins and outs of a position, rather than a general description on the web. Hence, organise job shadowing. 

Check in with friend’s friends, contacts, community etc regarding anyone who can provide you with more information or opportunities. 

For school goers, get to the university open days! 

Your CV doesn’t sell you, you do!  Have a CV prepared, but this is usually only handed over as proof of education and experience.  See what Richard Bolles says about this in the job hunt section (or wait for me)! 

Guru’s and their work: 

  • Brene Brown – for any perfectionist (and for still those believing that this is a good thing), her book, The Gifts of Imperfections is a must.  Her by-line crunches the deal …. ‘ let go of who you think you are supposed to be and embrace who you are). It could be on your bedside table for always 

  • She has written many edifying books.  I haven’t read her most recently published one – the Atlas of the Heart, but it is bound to be another best seller. 

  • Crossing the Unknown Sea – Work as a Pilgrimage of Identity – David Whyte – as beautiful as it is profound

  • Time to Think – by Nancy Kline 

  • The work we were born to do – Nick Williams 

  • Quiet – by Susan Cain – a must read for introverts (follow her in LinkedIn, podcasts etc)

  • Man’s Search for Meaning – Victor Frankl (we always have a choice)

  • The Power of Now – Eckhart Tolle (love his work – so much on social media too)

  • How to be Compassionate – His Holiness the Dalai Lama, translated and edited by Jeffrey Hopkins 

  • The Alchemist – Paulo Coelho 

  • The Artist’s way – Julia Cameron 

  • Anything by Ester Perel

  • Look for podcasts / Tedtalks of these and others, too many to name. 

Children’s books! (especially, the illustrated ones).  Take some time out in the children section of a book shop (not teenagers, the really little ones, and not the popular televised books from series) There are always big learnings from the story and as they say, a picture paints a thousand words.  Maybe it’s the simplicity that I love. 

Should you feel that you require any form of therapy I can recommend that you investigate Find Help and Therapist Directory websites.  (When working individually with clients, I prefer to refer specifically to a range of therapists with whom I feel that my clients would connect). 

When researching, remember that the ‘click’ or connection is most important!  If there is no ability to relate, then it is difficult to trust.  In turn, one would likely shy away from sharing what one really wants to.  And without being able to download the blockages, it is unlikely that there will be the required healing.   

And lastly, there is time for exploration and contact and investigation and research, but then at times, when we get overwrought and anxious and run around in a flurried blur, we just need to quieten ourselves and take heed of what Rumi has to say. 

“When I run after what
I think I want, my
days are a furnace of
stress and anxiety; if
I sit in my own place
of patience, what I
need flows to me and
without pain. From this
I understand that what
I want also wants me,
is looking for me and
attracting me. There is
a great secret here for
anyone who can grasp it.”

Be well, be inspired and happy researching,